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impressed FIRST TOPIC: What is Love
I'd like to start by giving a definition for Love.
"Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own and the other's spiritual growth.*"
1.) Love is a will. One of the greatest gifts God has given us is the "Human Will". Aside from the immortal soul, the will is the next thing that is infinite on a human being . Our ability to choose is so great that God even risks the fact that we can even choose to defy Him**. You can choose to move a mountain and try and try despite the fact that you can't.
Love is a choice we have to make. It is more than a feeling. As long as you choose to love the person then love will exist, no matter what, no matter how long, even if the feeling of love is gone.
2.) To extend one's self means to go beyond your limits. To love someone means you do more than what you can for your beloved. That's why you can see good fathers working 2 jobs to raise their family. Mothers sleeping 2 hours or 4 hours to prepare meals, do household chores, help the kids with their homework, etc. These parents love their children so much that they are willing to do whatever it takes for their children even at the cost of their own health and safety.
3.) The purpose is spiritual growth for both. That means that the main goal of love is to be closer to God***. "God is love" and the secret of most successful relationships is being God-based.
SECOND TOPIC: False conceptions of love
This is one of the most important topics
1.) Falling in love is not love. Falling in love is just a feeling that comes and goes depending on the mood of the person.
Falling in love is one of the worst misconceptions of love that breaks long relationships and have women going for other men and men leaving their women because they are not "in love" anymore.
When you fall in love you think and dream about that person all the time, you don't understand what feelings you have and then you conclude that you're in love. This feeling happens usually to people who you stay longer with. How could you fall in love, or keep on thinking or dreaming about someone you never knew? This is also why you fall in love with persons who aren't the best looking and aren't the smartest of individuals but as long as they are there, there is always the possibility of Falling in love.
Love is more than a feeling. Love is a choice. Like I said before, even if the feeling is gone, as long as you choose to love you will remain in love.
2.) Infatuation and Crush is not love. Technically, it is a genetically determined instinctive component of mating behaviour*. That means it is instinct, human nature, it's in our genes, Mother Nature's way of preserving the species. Ever wonder why you have a crush on beautiful, handsome, and good looking people? Just remember it's animal instinct.
I know it's kinda hard to take at first but when you think about it, think about people falling in love, crushes, infatuations, you will realize the point. It is common and isn't unique. But choosing to love is different. Learning to love by choice is something you don't see everyday.
That's all for now. Maybe I can remember more later. I hope you like my presentation 
The final decision is yours. Believe or not, take none, take some or take all, it's up to you. I can only give advice and opinions. But in all your decisions let God guide you and you will always be on the safe side.
God Bless,
AC
*This is the exact word per word description I learned in my Philosophy class: "Philosophy of Man". I memorized it by heart and i'm very consistent.
**I'm trying to point how great the human will is.
***The truth is I really don't get or I just forgot what Spiritual Growth refered to so I added my opinion: "Goal is God".
July 22 2005, 11:07:13 UTC 6 years ago
Very nice article!
That's a very nice article. I wonder who made it? He must have been thru a lot to say something like that.dadang!